Closing Remarks: All Stories Are Unique

Of all the stories in the book I liked Ski Bums the most be cause that is the one I can best identify with. I can not tell you how many times my husband and I talk about opening our own business. We know that owning a business is way more work than working for someone else and just putting your time in and going home, but there is something about knowing that its yours and worth the work and headache. We have dreamed about all kinds of different business that we could open but I dont ever really think that any thing will come of it.

As far as what I learned from the book, I have learned that you do not have to be a very good writer to get published. I hated this book. I can not believe that someone would publish a book about a bunch of people with no direction, I know plenty of people who could fit into this book and believe me their lives are not intresting enough to write about .... and I am including myself. The majority of the people in this book (not all)  have had to choose between a job they hate but make huge amounts of money at, or a job that they would rater have but doesnt pay what they are used to... well boo hoo I dont care. If I were Po I would have left everyone out that didnt make a change for the better, when you read a self help book what good does it do you to know that most people fail at the change they attempt? I am sorry I didnt get something out of this book but it was painful to read, and I usually love to read maybe this just isnt my topic? I did not think that I would like writing a blog but I think I did. Even though I do not think anything in my life or anything I have to say is intresting enough to write about (and I do not think anyone will really read this) I have enjoyed venting on my blog.Who knows maybe I will keep it up after the class is over?

The Appropriate Time Frame

have you ever felt that your life was unbalanced? At some point everyones life is unbalanced. Either to much work or to much play. At this point I have to much to think about so my way of coping with stress is to ignore what I do not want to deal with. I know that solves nothing but sometimes that is what you need to survive. I moved to Ashland 2 days before this semister started. I started the process of buying a house. I just closed on this house a week ago and am planning on moving in next week. However I dont have a clue how long I will even be living there because my husbands work may be taking us back to Louisville. See why I ignore what I dont want to deal with?

I asume that by returning to school that is something I am working for and hope it pays off in the end. I hope it will pay off by me having a new career that I can take anywhere because it does not look like the constant moving is going to end.

I dont know that I have every helped someone when no one else believed in them but how about when they didnt believe in themself? I think that is part of being a good friend and hopefully we all have someone we can vent to, someone who will not tell us to stop dreaming cause its "never gonna happen". I come from the "never gonna happen" kind of family. None of my siblings or my parents have ever done anything that was risky at all. They are all so boring and do not believe in setting the bar very high. Having someone help you work tward a common goal feels so much better than trying to do it on your own surrounded buy people who dont think you can.

Relationships and Family con't

Having to choose, would you choose love over a career? Or opposite?  I think this totally depends on at what point of your life you are in when someone asks this question. How about love of a job that will not lead to a steady career? That is exactly where I was at for at about 15 years. Now that I am happily married, work does not consume my life. Before I worked long hours and was happy to do it. Now I am not willing to give so much to my job because I have better things to do with my time.

 Do we inherit our parent's dreams, fears, and wants? I am not sure about that because as far as I can tell my parents did not have dreams or fears or wants. My father worked and my mother was a stay at home mother(I have 5 siblings) and I do not really think that they ever mentioned wanting another life. We were very lucky that my dad had a very steady job that paid well enough that he could take care of us with little problems. I think he liked his work because he had to be at work at 7 am and he usually left the house about 5am with about a 15 minute drive to work. I think a lot of the men he worked with did this and they all socialized before work. Mostly I think my parents were concerned with making a decent wage and not so much worry about "their lifes work". When I was younger I just wanted to enjoy my job, now not hating it is enough.

Do you believe that many of our fears and misconceptions about our careers stem from our fears and misconceptions of being a parent? I have no idea about this one, I do not have children and have never wanted to be a parent. I do think that most of the reason I never wanted children is because I was the youngest of 6 kids and my parents lifes were BORING to me. We never took family vacations or anything fun. I am nothing like them in the respect that I seriously do not think my mother has been more than 20 miles away from the tri-state in more than 50 years. This is not the life I wanted and this is why I do not have children. I know its not rational but growing up I seen having a family as being tied down and as having zero freedom. I like my life and I do not regret my decision but when I am elderly and in a nursing home I may lol.